What is the impediment? The obstacle that must be breached?
It has to be fear of failure. And fear of the unknown. There has to be a kind of solace, in the expectation of diminished returns. "Life is a veil of tears", my mother once said.
And, "When you have children, your life is no longer your own."
This is how we compromise our dreams, and live with the day to day. And we find our joys in moments, even as we feel largely unfulfilled.
We come up with "coping" mechanisms, that gratify our collection of moments, because we percieve, that the larger tapestry is beyond our ability to weave.
This is how we compromise our dreams, and live with the day to day. And we find our joys in moments, even as we feel largely unfulfilled.
We come up with "coping" mechanisms, that gratify our collection of moments, because we percieve, that the larger tapestry is beyond our ability to weave.
As I see it, there is no way past this without an application of belief. A conscious decision to have a degree of faith, not in the inexplicable, or mysterious, but: if applied in a constant forward momentum, your actions will bear fruit.
A friend once told me, if you ask 20 chicks out on a date, one of them will say, "sure, why not?" Guaranteed! If you go to the club, and ask 20 chicks to dance, one of them will say yes. And probably way before you reach the 20th.
Another friend told me, "But what's the worst that can happen? That they say no. For guys like you and me, the worst is exactly what you fear the most." So rejection is not that easy, when it's rejection you fear the most.
Trial and error is the only way I can think of to get past the mountains one needs to climb. But I'm writing from experience, when I say, I had my training wheels on for a long time.
There should be training wheels for life. A safety net, from which we can bounce with joy, until technique organically develops, and your to fearlessly cast it aside.
Trial and error is the only way I can think of to get past the mountains one needs to climb. But I'm writing from experience, when I say, I had my training wheels on for a long time.
There should be training wheels for life. A safety net, from which we can bounce with joy, until technique organically develops, and your to fearlessly cast it aside.
The problem as I see it though, is that life has too many pitfalls, and moves at a pace, faster than can be seen by the naked eye.
So that we try to prepare our children even as we stumble and fall. And we say, "Don't do as I do. Learn from my mistakes." But we're bound to repeat those same mistakes, because we've never been shown the results otherwise.
This, as I've concluded, is the point where we must break with tradition. This is the point where we must forge our own path. But it's easier said than done. And it can take years, even a life time, to see the light of day.
I hope that's not the case for me. But neither do I see myself moving in a forward direction. This blog is as much an effort to break down my fears and static motion into its basic elements, as it is an impetus to consider something new.
I hope that's not the case for me. But neither do I see myself moving in a forward direction. This blog is as much an effort to break down my fears and static motion into its basic elements, as it is an impetus to consider something new.